If you are in a marriage that simply makes you sick (literally or figuratively) chances are that you have thought about initiating a divorce long before the holiday season started. Nevertheless, you may be ambivalent about starting it at this time of year. After all, it’s supposed to be “the most wonderful time of the year.”
One would think that infidelity would be easier in the 21st century, with so many tools available to initiate and maintain clandestine relationships. With text messages to burner phones, phony or temporary social media identities and private online personas, one would think that being caught cheating would be next to impossible.
Divorce can be even more stressful as a stay-at-home parent. If your spouse is the primary earner, you may be wondering if you'll be able to maintain your standard of living following your separation.
The key to a successful divorce is planning. Getting organized and setting things in motion can be easier said than done, especially in the midst of the holidays, which will be here before we know it. It is understandable that the sadness and anxiety that comes with knowing that a relationship is over can be overwhelming. Add that to the unanswered questions of child custody, financial support and property division, and it is no wonder that potential divorcees have a hard time in November and December.
You have probably heard this story before. A man courts (or is courted by) a beautiful young foreign national, they develop a relationship online that fosters into something romantic. A marriage proposal follows, and the immigrant spouse moves to the United States through a marriage visa.
While our prior posts focused on managing the emotional and logistical pitfalls that may come about during divorce, we find it prudent to dedicate a few of our upcoming posts to planning for divorce. After all, the old adage “if you prepare for the worst, you can expect the best” isn’t far from the truth. Planning not only helps you put things in perspective, it can also identify and help you avoid tough legal and financial issues.
It’s hard to know what your first meeting with an attorney will be like. After all, many people don’t consult one until after something tragic happens (i.e. being in an accident, or losing a loved one). While you may feel like you are alone in feeling nervous and unsure, take solace in knowing that this is normal. Nevertheless, initial consults with a family law attorney should accomplish three important goals, and this post will identify them.