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Are fathers at a disadvantage in child custody cases?

Women have long been thought of as primary caregivers. This belief has permeated child custody agreements, leading to years of favorable outcomes for mothers that may come at the expense of fathers.

Awarding custody to the mother simply because she is the mother is not the best way to approach child custody. Many courts are realizing this, and in an effort to avoid one-sided custody agreements, states across the country are pushing laws that promote shared custody.

Are fathers at a disadvantage in child custody cases?

Women have long been thought of as primary caregivers. This belief has permeated child custody agreements, leading to years of favorable outcomes for mothers that may come at the expense of fathers.

Awarding custody to the mother simply because she is the mother is not the best way to approach child custody. Many courts are realizing this, and in an effort to avoid one-sided custody agreements, states across the country are pushing laws that promote shared custody.

Why planning for spring break early can be helpful

It may seem odd to see sales for shorts, swimsuits and other clothing meant for sunny weather when there’s still snow on the ground, but retailers know that spring break is just around the corner for most school aged children and their families. So it is advantageous to prepare for those considering vacations in over the holiday weekends in February and March.

For recent divorcees or those who have recently separated, the mentality should be the same. This is especially important for those who have not established court-ordered parenting time for spring semester holidays. As such, this post will provide some insight planning for parenting time. 

Three things to remember as you prepare for divorce

The break-up of a marriage can be the most emotionally difficult experience one must deal with in life. Some may feel like a complete failure, and that they wish they had additional opportunities to take things back and make the marriage work. Others may believe that a divorce is a God-send, and cannot wait until the decree is finalized so that they may start a new life.

Regardless of how you may view it, there are several things you should know and internalize as you begin the process. They may not change things about your marriage, but they will help you heal and prepare for the future.

Thoughts on January divorces

A few weeks ago, we posted on the decision disgruntled spouses had to make about beginning divorce proceedings during the holiday season. Essentially, we noted that it is not such an easy decision, and that each situation is different. Nevertheless, the holidays have come and gone, the decorations have likely been taken down and life (as mundane or troubling as it may be) begins once again.

As such, it may be time for those who are set on divorcing in 2018 to begin the process. After all, January is known for having the most divorce filings than any month during the year.

Two important things to do after a divorce

One of the great things about divorces is that people can move on with their lives without the issues that plagued their marriage. More often than not, divorcees no longer have to deal with the money problems or emotional abuse that previously made them so miserable.

However, once the marriage ends, life still goes on and there are other things that must be done to protect your financial future. This post will highlight a couple of them.

Benefits of negotiating child support

Generally speaking, divorces are much like business deals. Many components are subject to negotiation, including child support. In our experience, we find that divorcing parties enjoy a number of benefits when an agreement can be reached on support, even if the final amount may be less than allowed by Virginia law. Indeed, agreeing to a lower amount isn’t likely (or required), but this post will identify a number of benefits to compromising on support obligations.

Tips for effective communication with your ex

Effective co-parenting starts with effective communication. While it sounds simple enough, broken relationships have complicated aspects that divorced (or separated) parents have difficulty moving past. (After all, if the parties had good communication skills, chances are that they would not be getting divorced.) Nevertheless, stable communication between parents is essential to a child’s development. The following tips can help.

Put your anger and hurt aside – Again, this may sound easier said than done, but it is the most important aspect in how to manage communication. Try to recognize that co-parenting is not about your feelings, but about your child’s growth and development. If you have to blow off steam or work through things, seek counsel from a trusted friend or therapist so that you can maintain the correct focus.

Why litigation is often the best choice for divorce

Going through a divorce is a daunting experience. With so much to consider, including your mental, emotional and financial well-being, as well as that of your children if you have any, it’s understandable that many people want to get their divorce over with as quickly as possible.

Moving on emotionally is important, but many divorces are contentious and if you aren’t prepared to fight, you may be selling yourself short.

Should I start a divorce during the holidays?

If you are in a marriage that simply makes you sick (literally or figuratively) chances are that you have thought about initiating a divorce long before the holiday season started. Nevertheless, you may be ambivalent about starting it at this time of year. After all, it’s supposed to be “the most wonderful time of the year.”

Because of this, family and friends may not want you to spend the entire holiday season in a funk. Even while you may be depressed and angry with your situation, you still may want a way out. But what about the children who hold this time of the year so dear?

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