Parenting with an ex is difficult. How can you effectively parent your children if you cannot get along with the other parent? Challenges may arise, but there are steps you can take to improve your parenting relationship with your ex.
Co-parenting: Communication is key
Consider the following tips when co-parenting with your ex:
- Do not speak poorly of your ex in front of your children. You may end up alienating your children or making them feel bad about themselves.
- Create a consistent routine and discipline plan. Both parents should follow the same routine and disciplinary actions or "rules of the house." This will make it easier for children to understand what is expected of them and will create more stability in your child's life.
- Be flexible with your ex. Being flexible and making compromises can make life much easier for you, your ex and your children. Life happens and allowing each other to be flexible will make sure your child's needs are still met.
- Communicate with each other in a way that works for both of you. Speaking and seeing your ex may not be your top priority, but creating a positive environment to communicate with each other will make co-parenting much easier in the end. Find the best way to communicate with each other so you can feel free to discuss parenting issues as they arise.
Putting your child's needs first will help you create a better co-parenting arrangement that centers around your children. Also remember: Co-parenting should evolve as your children grow up and their needs change. Both parents need to understand their parenting may need to change and establishing an effective co-parenting arrangement now will benefit everyone now and in the future.