Holidays are supposed to bring out the best in people. Unfortunately, the drive to make things "perfect" may bring out the worst in people. This is especially true when it comes to warring parents planning Halloween festivities, because of how difficult and petty a parent can be about having their way. Even when an exception can (and should) be made, a difficult parent may want to make things as challenging as possible simply because they can.
As family law attorneys, we see this all the time; a parent who is obsessed with having control over the child and their ex. And when they don't have it, they do not deal with it well. This could result in angry outbursts and defiance. It is almost as if they believe that if they make things very difficult for you, you may give in and let them have their way.
If you are experiencing this, it is difficult not to be in despair. After all, you look to the court to resolve issues, but you can't afford to keep running back to court every time your ex wants to assert their sense of power.
This is where having a thick skin and a firm understanding of your order can help. When you have these two things, an angry ex cannot berate you in to compromise or intimidate you into doing their bidding. However, if this continues, having specific documentation of these acts so that a family court judge will understand is important.
The preceding is not legal advice. If you have questions, an experienced family law attorney can help.